The Hypocrisy of Violent Compulsivity 

"The only devils in the world are those running around in our hearts.” Gandhi


Tension exists inside each of our bodies, just as it manifests externally between different groups of people. When we experience tension inside, it’s often a sign that something wants to move through us. This provocation can help us realize that the dynamism of life is manifesting in physical form through our bones, organs, and flesh. 

The moving vibrancy can be experienced in a preferable emotional state, such as joy or love. Operating from these places, we may want to jump, sing, create, or hug our friends. However, when it’s less welcomed by our system, sometimes we label it anger or anxiety. In the more uncomfortable states, responding to the experience in this way is often rooted in some sort of fear of unfamiliar territory or threat to our survival. 

Operating from these less-welcomed states of restlessness, it can drive us to act out compulsively. Searching for ways to alleviate the feelings, we begin to blame others.

In our search for meaning,certainty, and validation, we often make other people and/or groups the culprits of our own fear. We may blame the president, religious groups, or our partners and friends for the way we feel inside.

When we don’t understand that we feel scared or uncomfortable, we follow our fear into destructive, and often hypocritical territory. This can manifest into feeling hatred towards the very people we are condemning for being hateful themselves.

Hypocrisy is elusive and often disguised in forms of rigid moral stances. Although, ultimately, acting through hypocrisy maintains, and can even amplify, the issue itself.

However, when we are able to understand where these tensions are triggered and sourced within us, we can channel the dynamism with our volition into constructive and compassionate action in the name of a chosen higher value system. 

Consider the landscape of today’s tension. Do we choose to blame and condemn organized hate groups like the KKK or Islamic extremists? Or do we bring inquiry and curiosity to understand what’s driving their perspectives? If we choose to blame, we perpetuate the issue. If we choose to seek understanding, to question, to learn, then we may operating from curiosity, empathy, or perhaps even love. From these places, we then are ultimately encouraging the behavior we say that we seek to experience in the projected humans we are blaming. We do this by being an expression of that loving behavior ourselves.

In regard to escalating racial tensions in the USA, musician Jon Foreman recently articulated,

Instead of silencing and dismissing these troubled individuals, I began to think about the root of their emotional state. These white nationalists are driven by feelings of anger, frustration, and fear. They feel unimportant, unwanted, and threatened by a society they do not understand. Traumatized by a society that wishes they didn’t exist. There are many seemingly logical reasons why these white males shouldn’t feel the way they do. But reason is not driving these illogical actions ― emotion is steering the ship.

Once we begin to empathize with the roots of the emotional states, we can more easily access the ability to operate from compassion and love. Espcially because we realize these fearful states are universal and we all experience them. It’s from this place that change more often results in byproducts like peace and friendship throughout society.

On April 4th, 1968, following Martin Luther King Jr’s death, John F Kennedy’s spoke: 

For those of you who are black—considering the evidence there evidently is that there were white people who were responsible—you can be filled with bitterness, with hatred, and a desire for revenge. We can move in that direction as a country, in great polarization—black people amongst black, white people amongst white, filled with hatred toward one another. Or we can make an effort, as Martin Luther King did, to understand and to comprehend, and to replace that violence, that stain of bloodshed that has spread across our land, with an effort to understand with compassion and love. 

Daryl Davis is a musician and advocate for social change through understanding and friendship. He suggests to, “find someone who disagrees and invite them to your table.” And Daryl does just that. While sitting at the table with Daryl, a former KKK member, Scott Shepherd, he says to him, 

When you have an alcohol or drug problem. The alcohol and drugs are not the problems. They are just a symptom. There’s a deeper problem. Same thing with racism. That’s just a symptom. I didn’t have to address racism. I just had to address these issues, you know, within myself.

Let’s face our fears and make peace with our inner devils, rather than be led by anger into the hypocrisy of violence compulsivity.

After all, to bring peace, we must be peace.



In Conversation with the Mysteries of the World

Do you ever have the feeling of excitement when you come across a passage in a book, a song, or a painting that so deeply speaks to you? Well, that's how I feel right now about the below excerpt from Bill Plotkin's presentation of Soulcraft.

She no longer conforms to nor rebels against society, she chooses a third way.

She wanders, beyond the confines of her precious identity. The wanderer crosses and recrosses borders in order to find something whose location is unknown and unknowable. She will conclude she has found it not by its location, but by how it feels, how it resonates with her upon discovery. She doesn't know where or when or how clues will appear, so she wanders incessantly, both inwardly and outwardly, always looking, imagining, feeling.

In her wandering, she makes her own path.

The wanderer discovers her unique path by perceiving the world with imagination and feeling. She senses what is possible as well as actual. She sees into people, places and possibilities, and she cultivates a relationship with the invisible realms as much as with the visible. She is in conversation with the mysteries of the world, on the lookout for signs and omens. She attend especially to the edges, those places where one thing merges with another, where consciousness shifts and opens, where the world becomes something different from what it initially appeared to be.

The wanderer seeks to discover her unique and authentic place in life. Not just any place will do.

Her authentic place is not simply one that someone will pay her to occupy (like a job), nor a task she happens to have talent to preform (like an art or craft), nor a career a vocational counselor recommends for her (like banking or social work), nor a social role (like caregiver, student, parent, servant or leader, whore or rebel) in which other people will accept her. It's got to be her place, one in keeping with her virtual core. It is a place defined not by the deeds she performs, but by the qualities of the soul she embodies; not by her physical, social or economic achievements, but by the true character she manifests; neither by her capacity to conform to the masses nor by her ability to creatively rebel against the mainstream, but... the unique way she performs her giveaway for her community.

My gratitude to Bill Plotkin for discovering these truths. I am also thankful he took the time to find a way to so eloquently articulate and share them, so people such as me could find resonance, hope and connection in understanding.

(Shout out to Ryu for introducing me to Soulcraft)